We were recently invited to join a bi-monthly supper club with a few other couples, and the first couple who hosted set the bar verrrry high-they got catered food, had a ton of alcohol options, and went all out on themed decor and place settings. I felt torn between being annoyed with my friend for spending SO much money and setting the expectation for future supper clubs and being annoyed with myself for caring/judging. Maybe she and her husband can afford it. I know entertaining is her jam, and she probably had a blast getting everything together. Things will be more casual when we host, but I have no doubt we’ll have the same amount of fun.
This is such a hard balance. Getting to a place where you’re comfortable with how you host is one thing, but comparing (or trying not to) yourself to others is a whole other beast! Hopefully she found it life giving to go all out when she hosted but if it stressed her out, maybe seeing you host in a way that feels authentic to you will be inspiring. I’m sure however you choose to go about it will be lovely. 🫶🏼
Please tell me those are Girl Scout cookies on your charcuterie tray!! I loved this post and the emphasis on having a "hospitable spirit." I think you got right to the heart of the matter <3
Kelsey this was a piece I needed to read, an invitation to truly think about what it means to have a posture of hospitality. Thank you for your honesty and openness in learning what that can look like within different seasons. I’ll definitely be coming back to this as we gear up to move 🤎
Kelsey, I loved reading this and will be reflecting on entertainment vs. hospitality myself thanks to this! Your vulnerability is so encouraging, and I find myself in your words so often. I want to create enough margin in my life so that I don’t pass up on connection because of exhaustion. There’s so much hustle and hurry in life, and I love the point you hone in on here- what matters most is being present with those who do extend themselves (by hosting or showing up.)
Loved reading this!
We were recently invited to join a bi-monthly supper club with a few other couples, and the first couple who hosted set the bar verrrry high-they got catered food, had a ton of alcohol options, and went all out on themed decor and place settings. I felt torn between being annoyed with my friend for spending SO much money and setting the expectation for future supper clubs and being annoyed with myself for caring/judging. Maybe she and her husband can afford it. I know entertaining is her jam, and she probably had a blast getting everything together. Things will be more casual when we host, but I have no doubt we’ll have the same amount of fun.
This is such a hard balance. Getting to a place where you’re comfortable with how you host is one thing, but comparing (or trying not to) yourself to others is a whole other beast! Hopefully she found it life giving to go all out when she hosted but if it stressed her out, maybe seeing you host in a way that feels authentic to you will be inspiring. I’m sure however you choose to go about it will be lovely. 🫶🏼
Please tell me those are Girl Scout cookies on your charcuterie tray!! I loved this post and the emphasis on having a "hospitable spirit." I think you got right to the heart of the matter <3
Those are 100% Girl Scout cookies—peanut butter patties all the way!
Amazing! In my day they were called Tagalongs 😂 and they were my faveeee
Kelsey this was a piece I needed to read, an invitation to truly think about what it means to have a posture of hospitality. Thank you for your honesty and openness in learning what that can look like within different seasons. I’ll definitely be coming back to this as we gear up to move 🤎
I’m glad to hear this resonated with you! Thank you for letting me talk through all my tangled thoughts trying to get this written. 🫶🏼
Kelsey, this statement rang true to me:
“people consistently choose convenience over communion…”
I so agree and I feel like it’s actually gotten worse since we had the isolation of Covid.
We truly need to get uncomfortable enough to make others (through hospitality) feel comfortable in our homes.
I agree, I think that time really made us comfortable with isolation, but as hosts and attendees!
Kelsey, I loved reading this and will be reflecting on entertainment vs. hospitality myself thanks to this! Your vulnerability is so encouraging, and I find myself in your words so often. I want to create enough margin in my life so that I don’t pass up on connection because of exhaustion. There’s so much hustle and hurry in life, and I love the point you hone in on here- what matters most is being present with those who do extend themselves (by hosting or showing up.)